Sensual Sex: How to Engage All 5 Senses in the Bedroom
When you think of sex, the main sense that comes to mind is touch, right? While sensual touch is definitely the key to great love-making, what about the other four senses?
Every now and then, it’s fun to slow down and set the mood, and engaging all five senses is the best way to do it! Sensual sex brings intimacy to a whole new level, and can teach you a lot about your partner’s preferences and what turns on their senses.
Here are some tips for tapping into all five senses in the bedroom:
The different touches during sex may seem obvious, but there are ways to further explore them! Instead of just being super handsy with each other, try bringing in different objects—ice cubes, feathers, vibrators—anything to heighten the experience. If you’re in the mood to get a little edgy, touch can also be related to restraints like handcuffs or bondage. Let your imaginations run wild! (Of course, whatever you try, make sure you and your partner are both comfortable and on the same page.)
This tip might not be sexy, but the results will be: brush your teeth before sex! Nothing ruins a hot moment like morning breath. Of course, there are other ways to incorporate taste: try flavored lube or condoms, or even food! Strawberries, chocolate sauce, whipped cream, whatever you like—just be prepared to get messy. (Which can be fun!)
Think of all the different ways you can set the mood using sight. Candles may seem cliche, but is there anything more romantic than a little love-making by candlelight? Most people don’t like having sex with all of the lights on (if you do, great!), so some dim mood lighting is a good way to see each other while you do it. Watching each other adds a little extra arousal!
You can also watch erotic movies or even watch each other engage in a little self-foreplay to fully dial in to your sense of sight.
Sure, the bed squeaks and there’s a lot of moaning, but how else can you and your partner incorporate the sense of sound? How about making a sex playlist that gets you in the mood! You can also try some dirty talk during the deed. Tell your partner what feels good, what you want more of, or anything that gets each other going.
It might be the last thing you think about during sex, but smell can definitely affect the mood! Scented candles, incense, or diffusers can help create a sensual environment. You can also wear your partner’s favorite cologne or perfume for an extra sexy element. Who knows, maybe a scent alone will get them in the mood!
Whether you’ve just started to have sex as a couple or have been at it for years, taking some time to slow down, plan, and really focus on sensuality can boost the mood and improve intimacy. Ready to give it a try?