The concept of masculinity has been preached in several ways. Both in a way that puts an unprecedented ego on the boy to make him feel emotionally invulnerable. Men don’t cry, men don’t back down, men don’t cry for help, and men are meant to be strong always. These and many more were the masculinity we were taught both by society and even more by guardians and parents.

Growing up with this puts a stigma on any man not leaving to these pre-planned expectations, and they are instantly tagged “boy-girl” some even go as vulgar as calling them gays instantly. The concept was to push them into seeing that they are trampling on the laid down culture, the one of their masculinity being sacred without blemish, as gays are blemishes to masculinity. Unfortunately, this is the world we were born into, a world where you have no say in your sexual orientation. Sadly, those that have discovered theirs outside being a male are being bullied; it’s wrong. So yes, at the very onset, being gay most definitely would affect a gay’s masculinity. It’s definitely making him feel less of himself, making him think he isn’t enough, and if you are in this category, it’s nothing to be ashamed of; you are fortunate to have discovered your identity.

Sexual premium tag is placed on masculinity in the gay community, and this has forced most gays to becoming male. One of the core reasons why most gays suffer mental health issues is not just because of the marginalization between them and the society at large but also because it takes so much energy to act out the masculine figure. One of the ways to figure this out isn’t by speculating; some BDSM videos have portrayed these exact scenarios where gays are constantly misguided.

Are gay stereotypes real?

As mentioned earlier, society is such that it policies gay men for wanting to act masculine or present themselves as being straight. In this sense, some persons have deemed this act worthy of being called “gay-washing,” making the whole concept more complicated than it ought to be. There’s never supposed to be any stigma placed on anybody trying to explore their sexuality. The pressure on gay men to constantly strive to fit in or present themselves as what they are not not because they are not proud of their sexuality but because of the marginalization the society will place on such a person. It’s even more difficult if you have a name to protect, “God have mercy on your soul,” you’ll hear some of them say to your face.

Today, being gay has become a label. It’s a stigma and but for the LGBTQ community, it might have been worse than it presently is. However, as many people begin to discover their true sexuality and the community grows more significant, the society is expected to see things differently. Until then, you can see some BDSM videos on gay men and masculinity to grasp the whole concept.